Embrace your Inner Nerd


For those who don’t know me, I am a huge nerd! I trip over things, carried a big backpack full of books, and am even socially awkward at times.

...I bet you would have never guessed. I describe my inner nerd like Bernadette or Amy from The Big Bang Theory, or Sam Sparks from Cloudy With a Chance Of Meatballs.

And if you don’t know who these people are, click here, here, and here.

I geek out on psychology stuff. I am a total dork when it comes to learning about mental health, life, and relationships. Don’t be surprised when I start to ramble off facts or get really excited when I get to psycho-educate you about a mental health condition.

I admit it, I am a nerd, and I love it!

In the spirit of embracing my inner nerd and living authentically, I want to share some geeky facts around the way I work with with self-esteem:

Abraham Maslow, developmental psychologist, said that every person is striving to reach self-actualization.  

Self-actualization is the drive to reach your full potential, the state of realizing your strengths, and the desire to achieve everything you can, coupled with feelings of purpose and belonging. 

When we don’t get to a point of self-actualization, we can experience stress, anxiety, discomfort, and disease.

Lack of self-actualization leads to low self-confidence and poor self esteem.

When we are not self-actualized we are less motivated, lack a belief in our own ability, and we are not aware of our talents.

A lot of things can get in the way of self-actualization: violence, abuse, trauma, neglect, and ostracism.  These things rob us of basic needs including safety, belonging, and esteem. Trauma, abuse, and violence can leave us with poor confidence and limit our growth.

In order to attain self-actualization we must work through these things. Maslow said that an individual cannot become self-actualized unless we are able to meet our basic needs.

My approach to therapy brings you toward self-actualization by working through the adversities that can stand in the way of your basic needs.

Therapy that has self-actualization as a goal allows you to redefine your traumas, change negative patterns of thinking that keep you stuck, and explores your strengths to keep you motivated and focused. 

You can reach self-actualization with just a shift in your perspective.  

I use cognitive and behavioral strategies to promote creativity, improve insight, increase self-awareness, and instill a passion for life. I challenge my clients to find what it is they are passionate about, and embrace their inner nerd.

My inner nerd is self-actualized.  

The part of me that is a psychology fanatic is self-actualized.

Through embracing my inner nerd I am adventurous, curious, creative, and passionate.  You must be self-actualized to boost your confidence and improve your self-esteem!

If you or someone you know is struggling with a lack of self-confidence, or maybe hasn’t been feeling as creative lately, visit www.RanchoCounseling.com for more info on ways we help people just like you.

I would love the opportunity to help you find your authenticity, and embrace your inner nerd! Call or email now for a free consultation, Raquel Buchanan, M.A(818) 839-2032, Raquel.mftx@gmail.com.

Raquel Buchanan

Rancho Counseling , 10601 Church Street, Rancho Cucamonga, CA, 91730