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Making your Marriage Last by Building a Culture of Appreciation
Have you ever wondered why some couples just have what it takes to make their marriage last? You know those couples - the ones that always seem happy and connected, and it seems like they never fight. They’re the couples who have been together for years and years, and who always just seem to have that spark.
Want to know their secrets?
Well let me tell you, there are specific qualities that happy couples possess, but it’s not as complicated as you might think!
How to stop fighting about Money
Money is one of the top 5 issues that causes conflict in marriage. Many couples fight about the budget - who is staying on track and who isn’t, and they often label one partner as the spender and the other as the saver.
Although these patterns are very common, they aren’t truly helpful in getting to resolution. What really matters is what money means to each partner.
Is it Ever Too Early to Start Couples Therapy?
On occasion I will get a call from a couple who is engaged or newly married and they will say something like, “we don’t have a lot of issues, but we want to get started on the right foot, do you think it’s a good idea for us to come to therapy?”
4 Actual issues disguised as, “Trouble Communicating”
In 90% of the cases I have seen, communication is not the biggest problem. There are so many issues that are masked and placed under the category of “communication.”
What leads to an Affair?
I’ve been thinking a lot this week about how people give themselves permission to have affairs. I know they don’t do it outright - it’s not the first thing their minds jump to. But when I’m sitting with a couple, the betrayed partner always wants to know, how did this happen?
What I've learned is that there is a cascade of things that happen in the primary relationship before an affair happens, and I want to share a few of those things with you.