Affair Recovery Intensives
Get it all on the table without the soul suck of working on it week by week.
2 Day, Brainspotting and Ketamine Intensives for Healing Your Relationship
Can you imagine this for your relationship after an affair or a huge fight?
You wake up every day next to the person you love most in this world and you feel a sense of peace, joy, and gratitude.
You’ve been through it all together. There were so many times you each thought you were at your breaking point and about to call it quits, but with the right support and guidance, you made it through to this blissful place of love, connection and deep friendship.
Your breaking point was what led you to talking about EVERYTHING.
You both finally told the truth and even though it ripped your hearts out to hear it, once you hit rock bottom the only place you could go was up. The ride was the most difficult thing you’ve ever been through, but you’d do it all again if you knew it would lead you here…
There’s absolutely no doubt in your mind about where you stand. You look forward to them walking through the door every day. You’re excited when your phone lights up with a text from them. You haven’t been this affectionate and passionate since you were dating. You can’t get enough of each other! You never thought your relationship could be this good. You look forward to your weekly date nights and alone time - it’s your favorite part of the day.
Does this relationship, post affair, sound a little too good to be true?
That’s probably because what’s happening in your relationship feels like the complete opposite. You have no idea how or why this happened but the pain you feel is unbearable. One minute your anger is exploding, you’re ripping pictures off the wall and wondering if anything they ever even said about loving you was true - how could someone do something like this to the person they claim to love??
The next minute you’re sobbing uncontrollably into your pillow and wondering if the pain will ever end.
You question yourself and wonder what you could have done to deserve this - you scrutinize your looks, your weight, everything about your physical appearance. Sometimes it’s easier to blame yourself than your partner.
You thought you knew them and you never thought that in a million years they would betray you like this.
The betrayal hurts so bad because you know you love your partner more than anything in the world. You find yourself wanting to be close to them, wanting desperately to be reassured that they still love you and want to work through this.
Your mind gets caught up in the details. Where did it happen? How many times did you text or meet up? You try desperately to make sense of the timeline. You scrutinize every response your partner gives you, listening to the way their voice sounds, and hoping that you’ll be able to tell if they are lying or not.
You desperately want the truth.
Healing from Infidelity In Your Relationship
Your partner has tried to tell you everything, they let you see the messages, share their location, call you, reassure you, but it never feels like enough. Your partner wonders when you will ever trust them again. They want to move on, but you feel stuck.
Finding out your partner cheated has made you question everything about the past and whether they were even trying to fix things with you.
Couples Therapist for Infidelity
I help couples who are exhausted from trying to heal their relationships after infidelity to create a path towards connection and healing through intensive couples therapy. I am an expert therapist trained to work with infidelity. I use various methods to help calm your nervous system so that you don’t find the therapy room just another place where you fight and have a referee.
In my affair recovery intensives, you will have the opportunity to speak honestly and openly about what’s happened, and receive the guidance you truly need to start rebuilding trust. You will both feel so supported knowing that you are able to have the really hard conversations with someone who won’t take sides but will keep your communication on track and with the intensive format there’s no more running gout of time and bottling up until next week. We have the time and space to go deep.
Not only do I help you understand why the betrayals have happened in the relationship, I help you open your hearts so you and your partner can make necessary changes to understand yourselves and one another in a completely new way.
Start Healing Infidelity with Couples Counseling
If you’re ready to rebuild trust and truly recommit and connect with your partner again click the link below and schedule your free 30-minute phone consultation or call me directly at (909) 600-0306. I’ll answer all of your questions, explain the process, and get you started on the road to building a new marriage that works for both of you - one that’s full of honesty, respect, love, and deep connection and commitment.
More About My Intensive Couples Therapy Format
If you’re like most of my clients, you don’t just want to be told you need to make time for date nights or to forgive and forget. You don’t want to come to therapy every week and rehash the fight of the week.
This pain feels unbearable but you’re committed to working through it and just because you don’t know how, doesn’t mean you should move straight towards divorce. You don’t know how much longer you can go on like this, but the thought of calling an attorney and splitting custody of your kids scares the bejeesus out of you.
You want big changes, and you want them fast.
You want a relationship built on trust and you want a concrete plan on how to restore the trust and feel confident in your commitment to one another.
You don’t want to wonder what your partner is thinking, and constantly question whether they are looking to get their needs met outside the relationship. You love your partner so deeply. Even with all the hurt, the frustration, and the hopelessness a part of you is still fully committed. You KNOW there is a way… but an hour a week… it isn’t gonna do it. You’ve tried that before and it was such a let down.
You’ve been there, right? Forty-five minutes of just trying to catch the therapist up on what has been happening and then ding! Time’s up!
Every week more hurt just builds up and there’s more distance and wounds to manage and you don't know how you’ll ever get to it all, there just never seems to be enough time. You are not alone. This is not your fault. An hour a week isn’t right for all couples and your therapist should’ve told you that. In fact, you may have felt like your therapist was hoping you’d quit. They weren’t really sure how to handle all that you brought to the table.
Meet Your Couples Expert
I’m Alicia. I’m not intimidated. Bring me all of your shit! I’ve spent the last 15 years working with couples just like you. And I used to do it just like the rest of the couples therapists I knew and learned from. One week at a time, 50 minutes at a time. For many of the couples I worked with who just wanted help communicating and improving their connection, I helped them get great results. But for those who really needed to work through some big resentments, deep hurts, and infidelity, the weekly sessions just weren’t cutting it.
Those that really stayed committed, never missed their weekly sessions, and who rearranged their lives to do so got to experience amazing transformations in their relationships. But what I started noticing was that most people couldn’t be that dedicated. Not because they didn’t want to, and it wasn’t for a lack of trying. They just had too many other commitments impeding on their desire to truly transform their relationship and they needed the help yesterday!
Over the last several years I started offering longer sessions and intensives to clients who were really stuck and just needed more time and attention. I hardly advertised it, but after seeing how valuable it truly is and the transformations my clients have experienced as a result, I want that for you too!
My intensive therapy format helps us dive deep, make real change, and do it quickly.
4 hours in 4 weeks? F that… more like 4 hours in a day.
Let’s get crystal clear on the patterns and create a plan of action to start unraveling this now.
We’ll start with a 2-day intensive and start making progress on day one - and then we’ll continue our work together for one year. One year is not an arbitrary number - it’s the length of time most couples take to heal from an infidelity. Following your intensive, we will meet either once a month for a 4-hour intensive, or twice a month for 100-minute sessions.
I go outside of the box and we can talk about integrating Brainspotting or Ketamine Assisted Therapy into this plan of action.
I help couples who are exhausted from trying to heal their relationships after infidelity or years of resentments to start understanding each other and learn to appreciate one another. I help couples who are truly committed but feel like they’ve tried everything else.
No more feeling anxious while you look at the clock and wonder how you’ll ever get to the important stuff.
For the cost of an attorney’s retainer fee, you could save your marriage.
These intensives are for couples who need help fast.
While gathering your background information and relationship history is important, it doesn't have to take a month to start getting to work because we’ll knock that out in the pre-intensive interviews. I’ll meet with you and your partner together and get a sense of where you are, what your goals are, and how the infidelity has impacted the relationship. I will also meet with each of you individually to hear about your trauma histories and how you’re coping with the affair. After that, you’ll come in together for your 2-day intensive. We will meet for 4 hours each day and lunch is included.
My clients come away with a sense of accomplishment after their intensives not, “let’s wait and see how this goes for the next couple of weeks.” I know you don’t have weeks, you want relief now.
They know exactly where they’re going because they leave with a clearly defined plan.
You can make the changes you really want to see in your relationship. No more walking on eggshells, no more worrying about the next blow out fight. Get it all out on the table and start on your road to a truly connected, loving, and passionate relationship.
Rebuilding a relationship takes time, effort, and energy, but you can gain serious momentum right from the start that will guide you for the remainder of your ride.
What you get with Couples Intensive:
EXPERT GUIDANCE
Get support from a couples expert so you know what conversations are important to have, and how to have them. Trying to do it alone often leads to more distance, confusion, and loneliness.
You will have a dedicated holder of hope for your relationship - not a referee! (Trust me, you don’t just want a referee!) But someone to guide you in the right direction when things get heated and you feel stuck.
DEDICATED FOCUS
Many couples think they can read a book or set aside focused time on their own to sit down and talk and repair their relationships. But what ends up happening is they lose focus and want to avoid difficult topics that feel uncomfortable to talk about and those planned sit downs never happen. An intensive gives you the focused time and attention that you truly need to make a big impact.
INNOVATIVE SUPPORT
This isn’t your, let’s just talk about it kinda therapy. We bring in real science-based tools that tap into your brain and body like brainspotting and if you need help letting the walls down, we bring in Ketamine to help open up the possibilities of healing. We take you out of your head to feel the shift of healing all the way into your body and heart.
What does an Affair Recovery Intensive include?
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Pre-Intensive Interviews
A 50-minute session with both partners, and one 50-minute individual session for each partner to determine the goals of your Affair Recovery Intensive and prepare for the experience. We will identify the pain points and destructive patterns that you and your partner often find yourselves in and want relief from. This will help inform our work together and be the foundation for the process of rebuilding trust.
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A Treatment Program that Works
The Affair Recovery Intensive sessions take place at my office in Rancho Cucamonga, CA, or virtually and are scheduled for 2 days in a row for 4 hours each day. This includes focused treatment that’s designed to make big changes.
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Post-Intensive Treatment Plan
Following your 2-day intensive, you have 2 options for continuing our work together for the remainder of the year: monthly 4-hour meetings or twice monthly 100-minute sessions.
Why do an Affair Recovery Intensive instead of traditional weekly therapy?
You Need Change Now — Not Months Later
Traditional therapy can be powerful, but it’s slow by design.
The first three weeks are almost always dedicated to intake, assessment, and history.
Real deep work doesn’t start until session four.
Then, each week, you spend:
10 minutes reconnecting
30 minutes in the work
10 minutes winding down
Over two months, that gives you about 2–3 hours of actual deep healing time — stretched across eight weeks.
Now imagine a different experience:
A two-day intensive gives you:
Three prep sessions that accelerate readiness rather than delay progress
8 hours of dedicated, uninterrupted deep work
A level of momentum weekly therapy simply can’t provide
Breakthroughs that happen in days, not months
All for $4,250, with a clear plan forward for your relationship.
When you’re hurting…
When the crisis feels immediate…
When change can’t wait…
You deserve support that moves at the speed of your needs.
Investment
2 Day Initial Intensive
$4,250
11 hour program
Pre-intensive couples interview (50 mins)
Pre-intensive individual interviews (50 mins for each partner)
2 days of intensive sessions - 4 hours each day (total of 8 hours)
Resources, assessments and personalized treatment
Following your initial intensive you will attend one 4-hour intensive per month ($1600) or two 100-minute sessions per month ($1400/ month or $700 each)
1 Day follow-up
$1,600
4 hour program
Once per month for ongoing treatment
Bi-weekly treatment
$700
100 minute sessions, two times per month
Utilized for ongoing treatment following your initial 2-day intensive
Traditional Therapy Vs. Intensive Couples Therapy
One of the hardest parts of weekly therapy is the way everything gets interrupted.
You might have opened up something vulnerable in one session… started to make sense of a painful pattern… or finally gotten to the root of something important. But then the hour ends, life happens, and you don’t return for another week.
And in that time?
A new argument happens.
A new misunderstanding cuts deep.
A fresh wave of hurt replaces the last one.
So when you show up the next week, instead of continuing the healing you started, you’re dealing with the latest fire, leaving last week’s wounds unresolved.
This is why so many couples feel stuck — not because they’re not trying, but because the pace of weekly therapy doesn’t match the pace of their pain.
Why Intensives Are More Cost-Effective
Intensives require a bigger financial investment up front, but they provide far more value in a much shorter amount of time. Instead of the constant stop-start rhythm of weekly sessions, you get 3-4 hours of uninterrupted deep work at once.
That’s the equivalent of 4–6 sessions’ worth of progress in a single meeting—without spending the first 10 minutes re-orienting, and without losing momentum week to week.
Let’s break that down:
Most traditional therapy sessions are 50 minutes—and most therapists charge around $250–$350 per session. But when you break that hour down, it’s easy to see why progress can feel slow.
The first 10 minutes are usually spent catching up.
The next 20 minutes are used to determine the focus of the session.
The next 15 minutes are where the deeper work happens.
The final 5 minutes are used to wrap things up and schedule the next appointment.
That means you’re really getting about 15-20 solid minutes of growth-oriented work each week. Over months or years, this adds up—not just in time but in cost.
When you’re in crisis, hurting from a rupture, and ready for serious change, you don’t want to wait months to feel better. Intensives are ideal for people who want:
Faster breakthroughs
Clearer direction
More time to process
A deeper, more transformative experience
Instead of stretching your healing over a long timeline, intensives allow you to make meaningful progress now.
Why a 4-Hour Affair-Recovery Intensive Works
After an affair is discovered, most couples are living in crisis. Trust feels shattered, emotions are raw, and conversations quickly spiral into defensiveness, shutdown, or repeated re-hashing of the same painful details. The partner who was betrayed often needs safety, clarity, and reassurance, while the partner who had the affair may feel overwhelmed, ashamed, or unsure how to help without making things worse.
A traditional 50-minute therapy session rarely provides enough time to stabilize the nervous system, slow the conversation, and address both partners’ needs in a meaningful way. Healing after infidelity requires more than surface-level communication skills—it requires space to process betrayal trauma, make sense of what happened, and begin rebuilding emotional safety together.
A 4-hour affair-recovery intensive creates that space. With extended time, we can move beyond crisis management and into real repair—helping you understand the impact of the affair, interrupt painful cycles, and begin the trust-rebuilding process in a way that feels contained, supported, and intentional.
This focused format allows couples to make meaningful progress in days rather than months, offering a clearer path forward when everything feels uncertain.
How the 240 Minutes Are Intentionally Structured for Affair Recovery
When infidelity has occurred, time matters—but so does containment. This intensive is carefully structured to support safety, emotional regulation, and meaningful repair without overwhelming either partner.
10 Minutes: Arriving, Grounding & Stabilizing
We begin by helping both partners settle their nervous systems and orient to the space. After betrayal, emotions can feel close to the surface and easily activated. This opening is not casual conversation—it’s intentional grounding that creates enough safety to do deeper work without escalating into crisis or shutdown.
20 Minutes: Clarifying What Needs Attention Now
Affair recovery brings many urgent questions, fears, and emotions. Together, we identify what feels most pressing in this moment—whether that’s addressing a recent trigger, clarifying boundaries, processing new information, or repairing a rupture that hasn’t healed. This ensures the work is focused, purposeful, and responsive rather than reactive.
200 Minutes: Deep Affair-Recovery & Attachment Repair
This is where real healing begins.
With extended time, we can slow the process down and work at the pace trauma recovery actually requires. You’ll have space for:
Therapist-guided interventions designed specifically for affair recovery
Processing betrayal trauma and its emotional impact
Repairing attachment injuries and ruptured trust
Regulating intense emotions as they arise—without rushing past them
Practicing new ways of communicating around honesty, accountability, and reassurance
Exploring the deeper meaning of the affair and what it exposed in the relationship
Because we’re not constrained by the clock, we can stay with difficult moments long enough for emotional repair to occur—rather than stopping just as something important opens up.
There is also room for grounding practices, movement, regulation, and short breaks as needed so the work remains sustainable, embodied, and supportive rather than overwhelming.
10 Minutes: Integration & Next Steps
We close by integrating what shifted, naming key insights, and clarifying what comes next in your recovery process. This helps both partners leave feeling steadier, more oriented, and emotionally contained—rather than flooded or unfinished.
What Happens After Your Affair-Recovery Intensive?
An affair-recovery intensive is a powerful beginning—but healing from infidelity is a process, not a single event. After a 2-day intensive, couples continue their work in a way that supports stabilization, trust repair, and long-term integration.
Most couples move into either:
One 4-hour follow-up intensive per month, or
Two 100-minute sessions per month
This continued support allows us to build on the foundation created during your intensive rather than returning to crisis or starting over each session.
Real repair after betrayal happens through integration, repetition, and consistent emotional safety. These extended follow-ups provide the container needed to reinforce new patterns, address setbacks as they arise, and continue rebuilding trust at a pace your nervous systems can tolerate.
Why 100-Minute Sessions Matter After Infidelity
After an affair, emotions can surface quickly and intensely. Short sessions often end just as something meaningful opens up. Extended sessions allow time for regulation, processing, and repair—so the work feels contained rather than destabilizing.
These sessions create space for emotional truths to emerge, for accountability and reassurance to land, and for trust-building to take root over time.
How the 100 Minutes Are Intentionally Structured
10 Minutes: Arriving & Re-Grounding
We begin by helping both partners transition out of daily life and back into a regulated, connected state. This grounding is essential after infidelity, when stress and hypervigilance can linger between sessions.
20 Minutes: Clarifying What Needs Attention
We identify what has come up since your last session—triggers, questions, progress, or moments of disconnection—or return to a core repair theme from your intensive. This ensures the work remains focused, intentional, and aligned with your recovery goals.
65 Minutes: Deepening Affair-Recovery Work
This is where healing continues.
You’ll have extended time for:
Therapist-guided interventions that build directly on your intensive
Repairing moments of rupture or misattunement in real time
Strengthening emotional safety, transparency, and reassurance
Practicing new communication patterns around trust and accountability
Exploring attachment wounds and trauma responses as they arise
Because we’re not constrained by a brief hour, we can stay with emotionally charged moments long enough for regulation, insight, and repair—rather than stopping mid-process.
This extended block also allows for grounding and nervous-system regulation before closing, so you leave feeling steadier and more integrated rather than activated or raw.
5 Minutes: Integration & Next Steps
We close by consolidating what shifted, naming key insights, and clarifying next steps. This helps anchor progress between sessions and supports continued healing outside the therapy room.
The Value of Extended Follow-Up Sessions After an Affair
100-minute follow-ups allow you to:
Sustain the momentum of your intensive
Repair trust gradually and intentionally
Address setbacks without losing depth
Interrupt old cycles before they take hold
Strengthen emotional safety, intimacy, and connection
Rather than spreading high-stakes, emotionally intense work across many short, fragmented sessions, extended follow-ups offer the continuity, depth, and containment that affair recovery truly requires.
Cost comparison - Traditional Weekly Therapy vs Intensive Couples Therapy
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Traditional Weekly Therapy (2 months)
8 weekly sessions (50 minutes each)
$250-$350 per session
Total cost: $2,000 - $2,800
~30 minutes of deep work per session → ~4 hours total
Stop–start rhythm slows progress
Momentum resets every week
Total Deep-Work Hours: ~4 Hours
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Two-Day Intensive + Prep Sessions
8-hour intensive (4 hours each day)
Three 50-minute prep sessions (2.5 hours)
Total cost: $4,250
8+ hours of uninterrupted deep work
Faster breakthroughs, deeper repair
Results in days, not months
Total Deep-Work Hours: 8+ Hours
You get double the deep work and significantly faster results with a two-day intensive.
Save time, energy, and money.
Jumpstart the healing process.
Frequently Asked Questions
Infidelity Recovery Intensives in Rancho Cucamonga
I offer trauma-informed infidelity recovery intensives for couples in Rancho Cucamonga, California, designed to help partners heal after affairs, betrayal, and broken trust. These focused, multi-hour sessions provide structured support for stabilizing crisis, repairing emotional wounds, and rebuilding connection faster than traditional weekly couples therapy.
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An affair recovery intensive is a focused, multi-hour or multi-day therapy experience designed to help couples heal after an affair. I provide structured, trauma-informed support that addresses betrayal trauma, emotional safety, accountability, and reconnection more effectively than traditional weekly couples therapy.
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Unlike weekly sessions that move slowly, infidelity recovery intensives allow couples to work deeply without long gaps between sessions. This concentrated format helps stabilize crisis, reduce emotional overwhelm, and create real momentum for healing trust and communication in a shorter period of time.
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Yes. While infidelity causes significant emotional trauma, many couples can heal and rebuild trust with the right support. Affair recovery therapy focuses on understanding what happened, addressing attachment wounds, restoring emotional safety, and creating a new relational foundation — not returning to the relationship as it was.
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The sooner you seek support, the better. Many couples in Rancho Cucamonga contact me during the initial crisis phase when emotions are high. An infidelity recovery intensive helps contain damage early, reduce re-traumatization, and prevent harmful patterns from becoming entrenched.
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Yes. Emotional affairs, online affairs, and physical affairs can all deeply impact trust and attachment. I tailor infidelity recovery therapy to the specific nature of the betrayal, recognizing that secrecy, emotional withdrawal, and broken trust are often just as damaging as physical infidelity.
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That uncertainty is common after an affair. Infidelity recovery intensives create space for clarity without pressure to make immediate decisions. I help couples slow the process down, understand emotional reactions, and determine next steps from a grounded, informed place rather than crisis-driven choices.
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No. I do not shame or attack either partner. Infidelity recovery therapy focuses on accountability without blame, emotional impact without character judgment, and understanding relationship dynamics while still honoring personal responsibility for choices made.
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Not always, but sometimes individual support is helpful. Depending on trauma history, emotional regulation, or attachment wounds, I may recommend individual sessions before or after the intensive to support long-term healing and prevent reenacting old patterns.
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I am an out-of-network provider. Insurance typically does not cover couples therapy or extended intensives. Many couples choose self-pay for the privacy, flexibility, and depth this format offers. I can provide a superbill for possible out-of-network reimbursement upon request and you may pay with FSA or HSA funds if that is available to you through your insurance plan.
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The first step is scheduling a free 30-minute consultation. I’ll learn about your situation, assess readiness for an infidelity recovery intensive, and help you decide whether this format is the best next step for your relationship.
More Questions?
Click below to book a free 15-minute phone consultation and we’ll answer any questions you might have and find out if an Affair Recovery Intensive is right for you!