When it seems like everything turns into an argument
A couples expert can help
You have no idea how you got hereā¦
Theyāre packing their bags to leave the house after another blow-out fight.
Youāve thought about calling a divorce lawyer, but the idea just scares you to death, and you canāt even fathom splitting custody of your kids.
You know your kids are already suffering - they feel the tension, they hear you bickering, and youāre so short with them because youāre always walking on eggshells trying to avoid the next fight with your partner.
This is not the life you pictured.
You have been through these same cycles so many times. When things are good, they are really good. But those good times are fading and now you are either not talking at all, or you are tiptoeing around each other, waiting for the next explosion.
You do not talk like you used to. There is no real intimacy. You feel like roommates, and your heart is broken because you feel so lonely, and you have no idea how to get your partner to really understand you. You keep thinking, āIf we could just communicate better, maybe we would not be here.
A Couples Therapist in Rancho Cucamonga, Temecula, or Online in California can help
I am a solo couples therapist who works with couples in an intensive format, and I completely understand just how tired and hurt you are.
I have dedicated my career to deep training in couples therapy and trauma informed work. I help couples who are exhausted from the constant fighting and confusion and who are ready for a focused, intentional reset, not another year of ātrying to figure it outā in short weekly sessions.
In a couples intensive with me, you will not just show up and have the same fights over and over in my office because I help you understand more than the words that are being said by your partner - I help you both understand the patterns youāve been in that are keeping you stuck.
Together, we slow things down. I provide a clear plan, ground rules, and a safe, structured space to have the hard conversations you have not been able to have on your own.
A highly trained Brainspotting Therapist can be what you need to make a huge shift in your relationship
As a Brainspotting therapist, I use brain and body based tools to help you clear the triggers that keep pulling you back into the same painful cycle.
In my couples intensives, we may integrate Brainspotting and, when it is appropriate and medically supervised, Ketamine Assisted Therapy (KAP) for individual partners who are deeply stuck in trauma or emotional shutdown. This combination can support powerful shifts in how your nervous systems respond to each other.
Instead of spreading this work out over months, you spend concentrated time together in a one or two day intensive, then we plan follow-up support so you can keep practicing what you learned and keep your progress going.
We focus on helping you both open your hearts again in a way that feels safer and more grounded. You will start to feel changes not just in how you think, but in your bodies and nervous systems, which is what leads to deeper, lasting change. You will leave with tools you can return to for years.
In my couples intensives, we will use tools like Brainspotting or Ketamine Assisted Therapy (KAP), to help you clear the triggers that have kept you stuck for too long.
What can change with a couples therapy intensive
With a focused couples therapy intensive, followed by supportive sessions for the rest of the year, you can finally stop walking on eggshells and know where you and your partner truly stand.
You can begin to:
Understand the cycle you get stuck in and what each of you is protecting when you fight or shut down.
As the tension eases, you may find yourselves wanting to spend time together again. Your children will feel the shift when the constant animosity softens and the house feels calmer and safer.
You can feel your partner in your corner again. You can enjoy your life without the constant fear that a simple comment will turn into a blow up, because you both have tools to talk about the hard stuff before it explodes.
You learn how to repair, not just avoid.
If you are ready to stop the fighting and the constant pain of wondering how much longer you can do this, I would love to talk with you.
IMAGINE A RELATIONSHIP FREE OF CONSTANT ARGUMENTS, FREE OF ANIMOSITY TOWARDS ONE ANOTHER, WHERE EACH OF YOU FEELS HEARD AND UNDERSTOOD.
CLICK BELOW OR CALL (909) 600-0306 TO SCHEDULE YOUR FREE 15-MINUTE PHONE CONSULTATION
5 Signs You Need Couples Counseling
What to Expect
ONCE YOUāVE COMPLETED YOUR CONSULTATION, AND SCHEDULED YOUR FIRST COUPLES THERAPY INTENSIVE, HERE IS WHAT HAPPENS NEXT:
PLANNING SESSIONS
Your first 50 minute session, you and your partner will meet with me, your couples therapist in my Rancho Cucamonga office, Temecula office, or Online from anywhere in CA together.
This first session is focused on information and history taking. I will ask you questions about the issues that have brought you to therapy, what youād like to see change, and also many questions about the history of your relationship. It is very important for me to understand your goals for therapy and what you want your relationship to look like so we can keep checking in and guiding you in the right direction.
Next, I will meet with each of you individually for a 50-minute session. This session is about establishing your individual goals and provides an opportunity to share from your heart about the way you see things in the relationship. We will also discuss your personal history and background, including details about your past traumas. This helps me in identifying the triggers that have kept you stuck in the same conflict patterns for far too long.
COUPLES COUNSELING INTENSIVE
Next, you will have your first 2-day intensive. We will meet for 4-hours each day, two days in a row. During this time we will use tools like Brainspotting, IFS (Internal Family Systems) and somatic practices to help you dive into the issues so you can find your way towards more healing and connection. The intensive format allows time for your nervous system to settle and create safety so you can open up in a way that weekly therapy doesnāt allow.
FOLLOW-UP TREATMENT AND ONGOING COUPLES THERAPY
Healing continues as you follow up with either a monthly couples counseling intensive or two 100-minute sessions of couples counseling per month. During these sessions, you will find even more rapid growth and change as you have had time between each intensive to integrate and live out what you are learning and experiencing in the session
If this sounds like what youāve been looking for, click the button below and request a free 30-minute phone consultation or call us directly at (909) 600-0306 to get started.
Investment
2 Day Initial Intensive
$4,250
11 hour program
Pre-intensive couples interview (50 mins)
Pre-intensive individual interviews (50 mins for each partner)
2 days of intensive sessions - 4 hours each day (total of 8 hours)
Resources, assessments and personalized treatment
Following your initial intensive you will attend one 4-hour intensive per month ($1600) or two 100-minute sessions per month ($1400/ month or $700 each)
1 Day follow-up
$1,600
4 hour program
Once per month for ongoing treatment
Bi-weekly treatment
$700
100 minute sessions, two times per month
Utilized for ongoing treatment following your initial 2-day intensive
Why Intensives Are More Cost-Effective
Intensives require a bigger financial investment up front, but they provide far more value in a much shorter amount of time. Instead of the constant stop-start rhythm of weekly sessions, you get 3-4 hours of uninterrupted deep work at once.
Thatās the equivalent of 4ā6 sessionsā worth of progress in a single meetingāwithout spending the first 10 minutes re-orienting, and without losing momentum week to week.
Letās break that down:
Most traditional therapy sessions are 50 minutesāand most therapists charge around $250ā$350 per session. But when you break that hour down, itās easy to see why progress can feel slow.
The first 10 minutes are usually spent catching up.
The next 30 minutes are where the deeper work happens.
The final 10 minutes are used to wrap things up and schedule the next appointment.
That means youāre really getting about 30 solid minutes of growth-oriented work each week. Over months or years, this adds upānot just in time but in cost.
When youāre in crisis, hurting from a rupture, or simply ready for serious change, you donāt want to wait months to feel better. Intensives are ideal for people who want:
Faster breakthroughs
Clearer direction
More time to process
A deeper, more transformative experience
Instead of stretching your healing over a long timeline, intensives allow you to make meaningful progress now.
Cost comparison - Traditional Weekly Therapy vs Intensive Couples Therapy
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Weekly Therapy (Over 2 Months)
Traditional weekly therapy doesnāt begin deep work right away.
The first 3 sessions are typically intake, assessment, and history-gathering, which means real therapeutic work often doesnāt begin until week four. Weekly therapy gives you:3 intake sessions before progress even starts
5 sessions of actual therapeutic work
$250-$350 per session
Total cost: $2,000 - $2,800
True deep-work time:
~30 minutes per session ā ~2.5 hours of deep work
Progress unfolds slowly, with weekly resets
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Two-Day Intensive + Prep Sessions
But when your relationship is hurting, you donāt have time for slow.
A two-day intensive gives you:
Structured prep ahead of time
Faster, more meaningful breakthroughs
A clear plan for what comes next
All for $4,250āa powerful investment in the future of your relationship and your healing.
8 hours of dedicated, uninterrupted deep work
No waiting weeks to begin healing
No stopāstart momentum
Meet Your Couples Expert
Iām Alicia, and I work with couples who are exhausted from trying to fix things on their own and are finally ready for focused, intensive help.
For years, I did couples therapy the way I was trained. One week at a time, 50 minutes at a time. For some couples who needed a tune up in communication or a little help reconnecting, that format worked beautifully. They made steady progress and felt closer and more confident in their relationship.
But for couples carrying big resentments, deep hurts, or the aftermath of infidelity, it became clear that traditional weekly sessions were not enough. The issues were too layered, the pain too intense, and the time too short. By the time we settled in and reached the hard stuff, we were already watching the clock.
The couples who could rearrange their lives, never miss a session, and stay in therapy long term often experienced powerful transformation. The problem was that most couples are juggling careers, children, aging parents, and a thousand other responsibilities. It was not a lack of desire or commitment. They wanted change yesterday, and they needed more support in a shorter window of time.
So I began offering longer sessions and full intensives to the couples who were really stuck and needed something different. At first I did it quietly, without much advertising. What I saw in those rooms changed the way I practice. When couples had protected time to drop in, stay with the process, and keep going instead of stopping at the 50 minute mark, they were able to move through layers of hurt and disconnection that had been there for years.
Now, this intensive format is at the heart of how I work.
My intensives are designed to help us dive deep, create real change, and do it in a way that respects how busy and overwhelmed you already feel. Instead of four hours scattered across a month, we might spend four hours in a single day. We start with a 2 day intensive and begin making progress on day one. From there, we continue our work together for one year. That is not a random number. It is the average amount of time it takes most couples to truly heal from infidelity and long held resentments.
After your initial 2-day intensive, we will meet either once a month for a 4-hour follow up intensive, or twice a month for 100-minute sessions. This gives you ongoing support while you implement new patterns at home, without losing the momentum you built in those first two days.
I also think outside the box when it comes to healing. When it is clinically appropriate and you are interested, we can talk about integrating Brainspotting or Ketamine Assisted Therapy into your plan. These brain and body based tools can help clear old triggers and trauma responses that keep pulling you back into the same painful arguments, even when you are trying to do things differently.
I specialize in working with couples who are truly committed to their relationship, but feel like they have tried everything. Couples recovering from affairs. Couples buried under years of unspoken resentment. Couples who still love each other, but are not sure how much longer they can keep going like this.
In our work together, I hold a clear, structured space where both of you can be honest, seen, and heard. We map out your patterns, name what has been too hard to say, and create a plan for how to move forward. No more spending half the session on small updates and then watching the clock, wondering how you will ever get to the important stuff.
If you are ready to sit down, slow things way down, and actually do the work your relationship has been needing for a long time, this is what I am here for.