What a $240 Haircut Taught Me About Infidelity Recovery and Couples Therapy
I once got a $200 haircut.
Actually, it was $240 with tip.
No color, no fancy deep conditioning—just a cut and a style.
I have naturally curly hair, and I had spent months researching stylists who specialized in curls. I was finally ready to invest in someone who understood my hair type and could give me a cut that would help my curls look their very best.
But that’s not what I got.
This stylist marketed herself as a “curly hair expert” and listed all of her certifications and trainings on her website. I believed her. I was excited—after all, I had spent over a year learning how to care for my curls and wanted someone who could take it to the next level.
But the experience was a letdown.
She was condescending, overly technical, and critical of the products I was already using—even though they were working well for me. It was clear she wanted me to purchase products from her salon. But what disappointed me most was what happened when I asked her a simple question:
“How can I get the most volume possible?”
Her answer?
“I can’t tell you how to cut your hair.”
I was stunned.
I had come to an expert. I was paying a premium price for professional guidance. I didn’t want to guess—I wanted someone I could trust to show me the way.
And that moment reminded me so much of how couples often feel when they’re looking for help—especially when they’re trying to recover from infidelity.
When You’re Searching for Real Help After Infidelity
When couples come to therapy after an affair, they’re not just looking to talk—they’re looking for direction. They’re often exhausted, overwhelmed, and hurting. They’re asking questions like:
Can we heal after infidelity?
Is it possible to rebuild trust?
How do we stop repeating the same painful cycles?
They don’t want vague encouragement or passive listening. They want infidelity recovery with a plan—a clear path forward from someone who’s been there with other couples and knows how to guide them through the pain.
That’s where couples therapy intensives come in.
Why I Don’t Just “Talk”—I Build a Framework for Change
In my work with couples—including high-achieving professionals and people facing the aftermath of betrayal—I don’t just sit back and ask how you feel. I assess. I ask the right questions to understand your story, your wounds, and your goals.
And then I do something many therapists hesitate to do: I create a real plan.
It’s tailored. It’s thoughtful. And it’s grounded in a framework that’s designed specifically for couples recovering from infidelity, trust issues, communication breakdowns, and emotional disconnection.
Therapists are often taught not to give advice—and that’s fair. I’m not here to tell you what to do with your life. But I will use my training and experience to tell you what I believe will help your relationship begin to heal, especially when trust has been broken.
Couples Therapy That Doesn’t Leave You Guessing
Infidelity recovery is not a one-size-fits-all process. That’s why my couples intensives in California begin with understanding where you’ve been and where you want to go. Then, together, we chart the steps forward.
✅ You’ll leave with clarity.
✅ You’ll have a strategy to repair your relationship.
✅ And you’ll feel supported—not judged, rushed, or left in the dark.
If you’re ready to invest in your relationship and work with someone who can give you compassionate, honest guidance during one of the hardest seasons of your life—I’d love to help.
Let’s rebuild trust together.
👉 Click here to schedule your couples intensive or consultation.
Let’s create a path forward that’s rooted in hope, clarity, and real change.
