Reaching out for help at this critical point in time is so crucial
It is the difference between acting out of pure emotion, and pushing the pause button to find clarity.
While it may feel as though the walls are crumbling around you, and reaching out can sometimes be scary, clients who begin working with me at this point are able to push pause, catch their breath, sort through their pain, and make the best decisions about what to do next.
Can my relationship survive this?
You may be wondering if working with a therapist will force you to end your relationship, and I get this question a lot. My role is not to make decisions for you, but it is to support you, and help you to come to the best decisions for yourself. All situations and relationships are different, and although there is no right answer, coming to your own answer is what is most important.
Does my partner have to come to therapy too?
I have worked with many individuals and couples who are struggling to cope with infidelity. Many times one partner calls for therapy, and comes to see me. In that initial phase, the focus is about getting through that gut-wrenching hurdle of emotion, processing it, and moving to a place of stability.
Once stability occurs, it is time to decide to work on healing the relationship, or ending the relationship.
When one or both partners decide to end the relationship, therapy continues on an individual basis, and the focus is on healing and making positive choices about the future.
When both partners wish to continue their relationship that is when we move to couples counseling, and begin working towards healing and building trust once again.
You can find a calm within the storm
Although it can be so difficult not knowing what the future holds for your relationship, taking the time to schedule an appointment and sort through your emotions can help you to find the calm within the storm and have a huge impact on the future of your relationship.
Click here to schedule a virtual or in-office appointment, or call (909) 226-6124.
Keep scrolling for free information and resources to help you through this process!
He cheated, now what?
You were never prepared to have a conversation about something like this and it feels so hard to talk about. You are on a rollercoaster of emotion. But how do you talk about it in a way that helps you find your voice and start the healing process?
I've created 8 pages of tips to help you find the calm within the storm, and deal with what is going on in your relationship. You don't have to sit in silence.
Free resources for after the affair
Communicating after your partner has cheated can seem like a daunting task. There is so much emotion, and the words might not be coming out right. Here are two quick videos to help you express yourself in a meaningful way:
The couples expert podcast
In this episode, Alicia also discusses:
- Sexting and how it impacts couples
- Infidelity and how she helps couples work through it
- Why grieving needs to happen after infidelity
- The different types of therapy and how attachment therapy varies from Alicia’s method
- Why you have to look at what happened before in the relationship to cause infidelity
- If you have a happy marriage, you won’t have to deal with infidelity
- What makes a marriage “affair proof”
- How to find out what you need from your partner to be able to move on
- An affair is about far more that sex
- Whether information about an affair should be disclosed
- Why both parties contribute to the affair by the condition of the relationship that leads to the affair
- Why you both have to be ready to do the work of repairing your relationship after infidelity
- The surprising thing Alicia learned about herself while doing her work
The women in-depth podcast
It was such an honor to be interviewed on the Women In-Depth Podcast with Lourdes Viado, PhD. For more info about the podcast go to: http://lourdesviado.com/podcast/
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Why Alicia’s purpose in therapy has always been to help and support women
- How her practice focuses on women and couples who are trying to “put themselves back together”
- Statistics on extra-marital affairs: (they are more common than you think!)
- The HUGE paradox in our beliefs and actions
- The importance of the language we use surrounding infidelity
- What is an “affair”?
- The emotional impact
- How women and men differ in their reactions to affairs
- How a relationship becomes vulnerable to an affair
The Midori Verity Show
Overcoming Infidelity in your marriage
In this episode of the Midori Verity Show, we talk about:
- Overcoming infidelity in your marriage
- How do you know if your relationship can survive after an affair
- Tips on dealing with anxiety, grief, and pain caused by a cheating spouse
- Realistic tools and honest insight into how to successfully deal with infidelity
If you are healing after infidelity or a relationship struggle, enter your information below and I'll be happy to send you my Infidelity guide and Healing from Heartbreak Journal Prompts as talked about in my interviews.
These prompts will help you find clarity as you move through the healing process. If you could use more support, feel free to contact me at (909) 226-6124.
How to love your unfaithful partner
I hope you enjoyed the interview I did for this amazing summit! I was so honored to be a part of it, and I'm honored that you're here. Chances are you're here because you want to get through this difficult time in your relationship, and learn how to communicate with your partner in a way that feels authentic, but that's also healing.
That's why I've put together some journal prompts for you. Writing about the pain and sadness you feel is so powerful and I'm a huge proponent of journaling. It will help you to get things out that you might not want to say directly to your partner.
You can go back and look at your writings and then discern what's important, and what really needs to be said, and you can craft your thoughts and messages from journaling.
To get your free journal prompts for healing after infidelity enter your info below, and they will be sent right to your inbox.
If I can support you through counseling or coaching series through this very difficult time, please don't hesitate to reach out to me. You can schedule an appointment or call me for a free 15-minute phone consultation. I'm wishing you all the best on this difficult journey.