That’s probably because what’s happening in your relationship feels like the complete opposite. You have no idea how or why this happened but the pain you feel is unbearable. One minute your anger is exploding, you’re ripping pictures off the wall and wondering if anything they ever even said about loving you was true - how could someone do something like this to the person they claim to love?? 

The next minute you’re sobbing uncontrollably into your pillow and wondering if the pain will ever end. 

You question yourself and wonder what you could have done to deserve this - you scrutinize your looks, your weight, everything about your physical appearance. Sometimes it’s easier to blame yourself than your partner. 

You thought you knew them and you never thought that in a million years they would betray you like this. 

The betrayal hurts so bad because you know you love your partner more than anything in the world. You find yourself wanting to be close to them, wanting desperately to be reassured that they still love you and want to work through this. 

Your mind gets caught up in the details. Where did it happen? How many times did you text or meet up? You try desperately to make sense of the timeline. You scrutinize every response your partner gives you, listening to the way their voice sounds, and hoping that you’ll be able to tell if they are lying or not. 

You desperately want the truth. 

Healing from Infidelity In Your Relationship

Your partner has tried to tell you everything, they let you see the messages, share their location, call you, reassure you, but it never feels like enough. Your partner wonders when you will ever trust them again. They want to move on, but you feel stuck.

Finding out your partner cheated has made you question everything about the past and whether they were even trying to fix things with you. 

Couples Therapist for Infidelity

I help couples  who are exhausted from trying to heal their relationships after infidelity to create a path towards connection and healing through intensive couples therapy. I am an expert therapist trained to work with infidelity. I use various methods to help calm your nervous system so that you don’t find the therapy room just another place where you fight and have a referee. 

In my affair recovery intensives, you will have the opportunity to speak honestly and openly about what’s happened, and receive the guidance you truly need to start rebuilding trust.  You will both feel so supported knowing that you are able to have the really hard conversations with someone who won’t take sides but will keep your communication on track and with the intensive format there’s no more running gout of time and bottling up until next week. We have the time and space to go deep.

Not only do I help you understand why the betrayals have happened in the relationship, I help you open your hearts so you and your partner can make necessary changes to understand yourselves and one another in a completely new way. 

Start Healing Infidelity with Couples Counseling

If you’re ready to rebuild trust and truly recommit and connect with your partner again click the link below and schedule your free 30-minute phone consultation or call me directly at (909) 600-0306. I’ll answer all of your questions, explain the process, and get you started on the road to building a new marriage that works for both of you - one that’s full of honesty, respect, love, and deep connection and commitment. 

More About My Intensive Couples Therapy Format

If you’re like most of my clients, you don’t just want to be told you need to make time for date nights or to forgive and forget.  You don’t want to come to therapy every week and rehash the fight of the week. 
This pain feels unbearable but you’re committed to working through it and just because you don’t know how, doesn’t mean you should move straight towards divorce. You don’t know how much longer you can go on like this, but the thought of calling an attorney and splitting custody of your kids scares the bejeesus out of you. 

You want big changes, and you want them fast. 

You want a relationship built on trust and you want a concrete plan on how to restore the trust and feel confident in your commitment to one another. 

You don’t want to wonder what your partner is thinking, and constantly question whether they are looking to get their needs met outside the relationship. You love your partner so deeply. Even with all the hurt, the frustration, and the hopelessness a part of you is still fully committed. You KNOW there is a way… but an hour a week… it isn’t gonna do it. You’ve tried that before and it was such a let down. 

You’ve been there, right? Forty-five minutes of just trying to catch the therapist up on what has been happening and then ding! Time’s up! 

Every week more hurt just builds up and there’s more distance and wounds to manage and you don't know how you’ll ever get to it all, there just never seems to be enough time. You are not alone. This is not your fault. An hour a week isn’t right for all couples and your therapist should’ve told you that. In fact, you may have felt like your therapist was hoping you’d quit. They weren’t really sure how to handle all that you brought to the table. 

For the cost of an attorney’s retainer fee, you could save your marriage.

These intensives are for couples who need help fast.

While gathering your background information and relationship history is important, it doesn't have to take a month to start getting to work because we’ll knock that out in the pre-intensive interviews. I’ll meet with you and your partner together and get a sense of where you are, what your goals are, and how the infidelity has impacted the relationship. I will also meet with each of you individually to hear about your trauma histories and how you’re coping with the affair. After that, you’ll come in together for your 2-day intensive. We will meet for 4 hours each day and lunch is included.

My clients come away with a sense of accomplishment after their intensives not, “let’s wait and see how this goes for the next couple of weeks.” I know you don’t have weeks, you want relief now.

They know exactly where they’re going because they leave with a clearly defined plan. 

You can make the changes you really want to see in your relationship. No more walking on eggshells, no more worrying about the next blow out fight. Get it all out on the table and start on your road to a truly connected, loving, and passionate relationship.  

Rebuilding a relationship takes time, effort, and energy, but you can gain serious momentum right from the start that will guide you for the remainder of your ride.