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IS ONE OF YOU PUSHING TOWARDS DIVORCE,

WHILE THE OTHER ISN'T SO SURE?

DISCERNMENT COUNSELING MIGHT BE THE ANSWER

Discernment counseling is a chance to slow down,

take a breath,

and consider all of the options for your marriage. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Discernment counseling is a new way of helping couples where one person is "leaning out" of the relationship - and not sure that regular marriage counseling would be helpful - and the other is "leaning in" and is interested in rebuilding the marriage. 

Discernment Counseling may be for you, if: 

One partner is leaning out 

You or your partner is wondering if divorce is the right option

one partner is leaning In 

You or your partner is not quite ready to call it quits

You'd like to gain clarity 

You and your partner are looking for the right path to choose, one that benefits everybody involved

 

Discernment Counseling will help you decide between three paths: 

path 1

stay the course

In this path, couples agree to keep things the same, and keep doing what they are doing. 

path 2

Separation or Divorce

In this path, couples agree to separate or divorce, and learn how to do so in a way that benefits all involved. 

Path 3 

6 months of couples therapy

In this path, couples agree to do 6 months of work on the relationship, with divorce off the table. This is not a commitment to be together forever, but a commitment to 6 moths of work with a reassessment after that time. 

Complete the form below or call me at (909)226-6124 to schedule a consultation to see if Discernment Counseling is right for you and your partner: 

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As a trained Discernment Counselor I can help you decide whether to try and restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later. 

The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction. 

You will find a deeper understanding of your relationship and the possibilities for the future.

The goal is not to solve your marital problems, but to see if they are solvable. 

You will be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment.  

Since you are both in different places, you will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations that you will have with me. 

I respect your reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health. 

Even if your relationship ends, the work is about emphasizing the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions, something you will take with you to future relationships should you choose to leave this one. 

DISCERNMENT COUNSELING CONSISTS OF A MAXIMUM OF 5 COUNSELING SESSIONS. 

 

The initial session is 2 hours in length, AND subsequent SESSIONS ARE 1.5 HOURS IN LENGTH. 

Discernment Counseling can be done online or in-person. 

DISCERNMENT COUNSELING IS NOT SUITED FOR THE FOLLOWING SITUATIONS:

One spouse has already made a final decision to divorce. 

When one spouse is coercing the other to participate. 

There is a threat of domestic violence.