The Biggest Mistakes Couples Make After an Affair (That Keep You Stuck)

There’s something I see with many couples—but usually not right away.

It’s what happens after they’ve already tried to move on from an affair… and it didn’t work.

They come in months or even years later and say things like:

“We agreed not to talk about it anymore.”
“We just wanted to move forward.”
“We thought bringing it up would make things worse.”

And for a while, it might seem like that strategy is working. But then something starts happening.

An argument comes up about something minor… and suddenly it’s back. The fight blows up and the couple is back in the cycle they found themselves in months or years ago when the affair was originally discovered. They then find themselves in moments of disconnection and suddenly the disconnect is interpreted as another affair is happening and the questions and accusations begin all over again.

These reactions don’t quite match the moment… but the conflicts feel impossible to control.

And they’re left wondering:

“Why are we still dealing with this?”

Watch: The Biggest Mistakes Couples Make After an Affair

I recorded a short video walking through the biggest mistakes I see couples make in the early stages after an affair—and why these patterns often don’t show up right away, but end up keeping couples stuck much longer than they need to be.

If this feels familiar, this will help you understand what’s happening (and what to do instead):

Why This Pattern Shows Up Later (Not Always Right Away)

One of the most confusing parts of affair recovery is that sometimes things feel “okay”… at first.

Couples stop talking about the affair and they fall back into their same patterns and routines because they were likely good partners before the affair. They know how to run a household together, take care of their kids needs together, and share the same space without causing too much friction.

They try their best to move forward and they focus on getting back to normal because restoring the relationship to homeostasis feels like the best thing to do. For a period of time, it can feel like it’s working. But what’s actually happening underneath the surface is very different.

Infidelity doesn’t just create emotional pain—it disrupts your sense of safety.

And when that disruption isn’t processed, it doesn’t disappear.

It gets stored.

And over time, it begins to resurface in ways that don’t always seem directly connected to the affair—but are.

The Most Common Mistakes I See (And Why They Backfire Over Time)

1. Trying to Move On Too Quickly

There’s often pressure—on both sides—to get back to “normal.”

But when the pain is skipped instead of processed, it doesn’t resolve.

It lingers.

And often, couples don’t feel the full impact of this right away—but they feel it later in the form of ongoing disconnection, emotional reactivity, feeling tuck or stagnant and when they come back to the same argument over and over.

2. Agreeing Not to Talk About It

This is one of the most common patterns I see—especially in couples who come in after months or years of trying to move forward on their own.

They made an agreement:

“Let’s just not talk about it anymore.”

The partner who had the affair wanted the questions to stop.
The betrayed partner agreed because they didn’t want to lose the relationship.

And for a while, it seemed like the right decision.

But nothing actually got processed.

The pain didn’t go away—it just got pushed down.

And over time, it starts to show up again:

• In arguments that escalate quickly

• In tension that doesn’t make sense in the moment

• In reactions that feel bigger than what’s happening

This is when couples start to feel like they’re “back at the beginning.”

But they’re not.

They’re running into something that was never fully worked through.

Forgiveness isn’t something you decide your way into.
It’s something that develops after the pain has been processed.

3. Focusing on Details Instead of Emotional Safety

It’s natural to want answers.

But healing doesn’t come from information alone.

Underneath those questions is something deeper: the most important question, “Am I safe with you?”

And safety is built through emotional presence—not just facts. It comes from sitting together and moving through challenging conflict - as messy as it may be - together. Sitting with one another through the pain and not pulling away.

4. Defensiveness Instead of Connection

When pain resurfaces—especially later—the partner who had the affair often feels confused:

“I thought we already moved past this.”

So they explain, defend, or try to shut it down again.

But what actually helps is slowing down and staying present with the pain—especially when it comes back up.

5. Expecting Healing to Be Linear

When couples think they’ve moved on, it can feel frustrating when the pain returns.

But this isn’t a setback.

It’s part of the process.

Healing happens in waves—and sometimes those waves come later when things finally feel safe enough to surface.

6. Trying to Figure It Out Alone

Many couples try to handle this on their own first.

And when the “move on and don’t talk about it” strategy doesn’t work, they find themselves feeling stuck much later.

Because what you’re navigating isn’t just a relationship issue.

It’s trauma, attachment, and nervous system dysregulation—all happening at once.

Common Questions About Affair Recovery

Why does the affair keep coming up even years later?

Because it was never fully processed. When something disrupts your sense of safety and isn’t worked through, your nervous system continues trying to resolve it—often long after the event itself.

Is it bad that we tried to move on and not talk about it?

No. It’s a very understandable response. Most couples are trying to protect the relationship. It just tends to delay healing rather than create it.

Why does it feel like we’re back at the beginning?

Because the underlying pain is just now being accessed—not because you’ve failed, but because it wasn’t processed earlier.

Can we still heal if it’s been years since the affair?

Yes. Healing is still absolutely possible. In many cases, couples are finally in a place where they’re ready to process it in a deeper, more effective way.

Do we have to keep talking about it forever?

No. But there is a phase where it needs to be processed in a way that creates understanding and safety. Once that happens, the intensity and frequency naturally decrease.

You Don’t Have to Stay Stuck Here

If you’re in this place—where it feels like you’ve tried to move on but it keeps coming back—you’re not alone.

And you’re not doing anything wrong.

You’re running into something that simply needs a different kind of support.

With the right guidance, couples can move through this in a way that actually creates resolution—not just temporary relief.

If you’re ready for that, I offer intensives and longer sessions specifically designed for affair recovery.

You can book a free consultation to talk through what’s happening and what support could look like for you.

Alicia Taverner, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist who helps couples heal after infidelity, years of resentment, and the exhaustion of feeling stuck in the same painful patterns.

Her work helps partners begin to understand each other again, rebuild appreciation, and create lasting change with a focused, supportive approach. Alicia uses brain based techniques, including Brainspotting and ketamine assisted psychotherapy, in an intensive format that gives couples more room to heal without the start and stop of weekly sessions.

Learn more about Alicia’s work with affair recovery intensives, relationship therapy, and ketamine therapy, or visit her About page.

Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About the Affair: Understanding Betrayal Trauma After Infidelity

Discovering that your partner has had an affair can feel like your world has been turned upside down.

Most people expect the pain of betrayal to feel emotional — sadness, anger, heartbreak. But what surprises many people is how intense and relentless the mental experience can be.

Your mind might feel like it won’t turn off.

You may find yourself replaying conversations, imagining scenarios you wish you could erase, or feeling waves of panic and anger that seem to come out of nowhere.

Many betrayed partners ask the same question:

“Why can’t I stop thinking about the affair?”

If you’re experiencing this after discovering an affair, there’s something important to understand:

You’re not losing your mind.
Your brain is trying to process a shock.

Below I explain what’s actually happening.

Watch: Why Your Mind Feels Out of Control After Discovering an Affair

Why Discovering an Affair Feels So Overwhelming

Infidelity isn’t just a relationship crisis. For many people, it also creates a trauma response in the brain and nervous system.

When we are in a committed relationship, our brains rely on our partner as part of our sense of emotional safety and stability. When betrayal occurs, the brain can interpret it as a threat to attachment and security.

This is why discovering an affair can trigger reactions that feel similar to trauma.

Common reactions include:

• Intrusive thoughts about the affair

• Replaying conversations or searching for clues

• Sudden waves of anger, sadness, or panic

• Difficulty concentrating or sleeping

• Feeling emotionally flooded or overwhelmed

These responses can feel frightening, especially if you’ve never experienced anything like this before.

But in many cases, these reactions are your brain’s way of trying to make sense of something that shattered your expectations of trust and safety.

Why Your Mind Keeps Replaying the Affair

One of the most distressing experiences after discovering infidelity is the feeling that your mind keeps replaying what happened.

You might find yourself:

• Reconstructing timelines

• Searching for answers

• Imagining details you don’t fully know

• Revisiting conversations from the past

This mental loop happens because your brain is trying to solve a problem that appeared suddenly and without warning.

When something traumatic happens, the brain often moves into a state of hyper-analysis. It is attempting to gather information so it can determine whether you are safe.

Unfortunately, this process can feel exhausting and relentless.

Why Your Nervous System Feels Flooded

After discovering an affair, many people notice that their emotional reactions feel much stronger than usual.

You might experience:

• Sudden emotional waves

• Panic or tightness in your chest

• Feeling like your body is constantly on edge

• Emotional reactions that feel bigger than expected

This happens because betrayal can activate the fight-or-flight response in the nervous system.

Your body may be trying to stay alert in order to protect you from further emotional harm.

Understanding that this is a nervous system response, rather than a personal weakness, can be an important step toward calming the experience.

You’re Not Overreacting

One of the most painful parts of betrayal is that people often begin to doubt their own reactions.

They wonder if they are being “too emotional” or if they should be able to move on faster.

But discovering an affair is a profound emotional injury. The shock, grief, confusion, and intrusive thoughts that follow are incredibly common.

What you’re experiencing is not a sign that you’re broken.

It’s a sign that something deeply important to you was disrupted.

Healing After Infidelity

Healing from infidelity takes time, support, and a safe place to process what happened.

For some couples, this means working together to repair trust and rebuild the relationship.

For others, the work involves understanding what happened and deciding what comes next.

If you’re navigating this experience, you may also find it helpful to explore:

• Relationship Therapy: A Complete Guide to Healing Patterns, Communication, and Connection

• The Ultimate Guide to Affair Recovery Intensives in California

These resources can help you understand what the recovery process may look like and what kinds of support are available.

Help After Discovering an Affair in California

If you’ve recently discovered an affair, you may feel overwhelmed, confused, or unsure what to do next.

Many people ask questions like:

• Should we try to repair the relationship?

• Is rebuilding trust after infidelity possible?

• How do I stop the constant thoughts about what happened?

These are very common questions after betrayal.

As a relationship therapist based in Southern California, I work with individuals and couples who are navigating the aftermath of infidelity. Many people seek support when they feel stuck in the emotional shock of discovering an affair and want guidance on how to move forward.

Therapy can help you:

• Process the emotional impact of betrayal

• Calm the nervous system after the shock of infidelity

• Understand what happened in the relationship

• Decide whether to repair the relationship or move forward separately

Some couples benefit from relationship therapy intensives, which allow deeper work to happen in a shorter period of time when emotions are high and clarity is needed quickly.

If you are looking for help after discovering an affair in California, you can learn more about working with me by scheduling a free phone consultation here.

What To Do Immediately After Discovering an Affair

Discovering an affair can feel like emotional whiplash. Many people describe feeling shocked, disoriented, and unsure what to do next.

When everything feels chaotic, it can help to focus on a few grounding steps.

1. Give Yourself Time to Process the Shock

In the first days after discovering infidelity, your nervous system may feel overwhelmed. You might experience intense emotions, intrusive thoughts, or difficulty concentrating.

Try to resist the pressure to immediately make major relationship decisions. Your brain is still processing the shock of what happened.

2. Avoid Making Big Decisions in the First Wave of Emotion

Many people feel pressure to decide quickly whether they should stay or leave the relationship.

While those questions are important, the early phase after discovering an affair is often not the best time to make permanent decisions. Allow yourself space to understand what happened and how you feel before determining what comes next.

3. Focus on Stabilizing Your Nervous System

After betrayal, your body may stay in a heightened state of alert. Gentle practices like breathing exercises, walking, grounding techniques, or talking with a supportive person can help your nervous system settle.

When your nervous system becomes more regulated, it becomes easier to think clearly about the situation.

4. Seek Support

Trying to navigate the aftermath of infidelity alone can feel isolating. Many people find relief in speaking with a therapist who understands betrayal trauma and relationship dynamics.

Support can help you process the shock of what happened and begin to understand what your next steps might be.

5. Remember That Healing Is Possible

Right now it may feel like everything has been shattered. But many individuals and couples are able to move through the aftermath of infidelity with clarity, healing, and growth.

Recovery doesn’t happen overnight, but understanding what’s happening in your brain and nervous system can be the first step toward feeling grounded again.

If you're considering deeper support for navigating infidelity, you may also want to read:
The Ultimate Guide to Affair Recovery Intensives in California

Frequently Asked Questions About Betrayal Trauma After Infidelity

Is it normal to feel like you’re going crazy after discovering an affair?

Yes. Many people experience intrusive thoughts, emotional flooding, difficulty sleeping, and constant mental replaying after discovering an affair. These reactions are often part of a trauma response in the brain and nervous system.

Why can’t I stop thinking about the affair?

After discovering infidelity, the brain often tries to reconstruct what happened. This can lead to repetitive thoughts, replaying conversations, or imagining scenarios. Your brain is attempting to regain a sense of safety by understanding the situation.

What is betrayal trauma?

Betrayal trauma is the emotional and neurological response that can occur when someone you rely on for safety and connection violates your trust. Discovering an affair can activate the brain’s threat response, which is why many people experience symptoms similar to trauma after infidelity.

Why does my body react so strongly after discovering infidelity?

Betrayal can activate the nervous system’s fight-or-flight response, which may cause panic, tightness in your chest, emotional flooding, or sudden waves of anger or sadness.

How long does it take to recover from infidelity?

Recovery timelines vary. Healing often involves processing the emotional shock of betrayal, understanding what happened in the relationship, and deciding what comes next.

When should someone seek therapy after discovering an affair?

If intrusive thoughts, emotional overwhelm, or relationship distress continue to interfere with daily life, working with a therapist can help you process the experience and begin to calm your nervous system.

About the Author

Alicia Taverner, LMFT #50414 is a relationship therapist and the owner of Rancho Counseling in Southern California. She specializes in helping individuals and couples navigate infidelity recovery, betrayal trauma, and relationship healing using brain-based approaches such as Brainspotting, Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy, Internal Family Systems, and intensive relationship therapy.

Can a Relationship Survive an Affair? What I See in Therapy

If you’re searching for guidance on affair recovery in California, you may be feeling overwhelmed, confused, or unsure what this betrayal really means for your relationship. One of the most common patterns I see in infidelity counseling is what’s known as an “unmet needs” affair”—a type of affair that often develops gradually during periods of emotional disconnection.

In the video below, I explain why good people have affairs, why these relationships can feel so intense, and what healing after infidelity can realistically look like. Whether you’re hoping to rebuild trust, understand what went wrong, or simply make sense of what you’re experiencing, this video offers clear, grounded insight into the affair recovery process.

If you’re navigating infidelity and looking for thoughtful, professional support in California, this is a helpful place to begin.

Alicia Taverner, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist who helps couples heal after infidelity, years of resentment, and the exhaustion of feeling stuck in the same painful patterns.

Her work helps partners begin to understand each other again, rebuild appreciation, and create lasting change with a focused, supportive approach. Alicia uses brain based techniques, including Brainspotting and ketamine assisted psychotherapy, in an intensive format that gives couples more room to heal without the start and stop of weekly sessions.

Learn more about Alicia’s work with affair recovery intensives, relationship therapy, and ketamine therapy, or visit her About page.

Affair Recovery: What to expect in a 3-day Intensive in California

If you're considering an affair recovery intensive in California, you may be wondering what happens during three full days of focused work. After discovering an affair, many couples feel overwhelmed, disconnected, and unsure whether healing is even possible. A structured affair recovery intensive creates dedicated time and space to process the betrayal, rebuild trust, and begin moving forward together.

This is a significant investment of time, energy, and emotion. Your relationship may feel like it's hanging in the balance. Understanding what to expect can help you decide whether an affair recovery intensive is the right next step in your healing journey.

My 3-day affair recovery intensives in California include four hours of focused therapy each day. While every intensive is tailored to the unique needs of the couple, the overall framework remains the same.

Day 1: Creating Safety and Stability After Infidelity

The first stage of affair recovery is helping both partners feel emotionally safe enough to engage in productive conversations.

Since the affair was discovered, you've likely found yourselves caught in painful cycles of arguing, withdrawing, blaming, or shutting down. These patterns are common after infidelity but can make healing feel impossible.

On the first day of your affair recovery intensive, we identify the conflict patterns that keep you stuck and begin creating a foundation for productive dialogue. We explore the thoughts, fears, and triggers that are driving your emotional reactions and establish clear goals for our work together.

I also introduce Brainspotting, a powerful brain-based approach that helps regulate the nervous system and reduce emotional overwhelm. This creates the emotional stability needed for deeper affair recovery work in the days ahead.

By the end of Day 1, many couples report feeling calmer, more hopeful, and better able to have conversations that previously felt impossible.

Day 2: Processing the Betrayal and Understanding What Happened

The second day of your affair recovery intensive focuses on understanding and processing the betrayal itself.

For the betrayed partner, there are often countless unanswered questions. Many people find themselves asking the same questions repeatedly because they are trying to make sense of what happened and regain a sense of safety. This is a normal part of the affair recovery process.

During Day 2, I help couples slow down and explore the deeper needs underneath those questions so conversations become meaningful rather than repetitive.

We also identify the attachment wounds that have been activated by the affair. Through guided interventions, both partners begin to understand not only their own pain but also the pain their partner is carrying.

One of the most important aspects of affair recovery is understanding the relationship dynamics that existed before the affair occurred. This is not about assigning blame. The responsibility for the affair belongs to the partner who made that choice. Instead, we explore the patterns, disconnections, and unmet needs that may have contributed to vulnerability within the relationship.

This deeper understanding creates the foundation for genuine healing and long-term change.

Day 3: Rebuilding Trust and Moving Forward

The final day of the affair recovery intensive focuses on rebuilding trust and creating a path forward.

Many couples are surprised by how much connection can emerge after spending several days engaging in honest, vulnerable conversations. When partners are able to witness and support each other's deepest hurts, new opportunities for closeness begin to develop.

During this stage of affair recovery, we focus on:

• Rebuilding emotional safety

• Strengthening connection

• Creating healthy boundaries

• Developing transparency agreements

• Identifying practices that support ongoing healing

• Establishing a clear plan for continued recovery

We also revisit the assessment completed on Day 1 so you can see the progress you've made throughout the intensive.

By the end of the experience, couples often leave with greater clarity, increased understanding, and a renewed sense of hope for their relationship.

Why Affair Recovery Intensives Are So Effective

Traditional weekly therapy can be helpful, but many couples find that healing after infidelity requires more focused attention than a 50-minute session can provide.

A dedicated affair recovery intensive allows you to stay engaged in the work without spending the week reactivating painful conversations and waiting for your next appointment.

Many couples report significant improvements in:

• Anxiety and emotional overwhelm

• Intrusive thoughts and rumination

• Sleep quality

• Communication

• Emotional connection

• Trust and safety

While affair recovery is a process that continues after the intensive, many couples experience meaningful breakthroughs that would have taken months to achieve in traditional therapy.

Preparing for Your Affair Recovery Intensive

Before your affair recovery intensive, we'll meet for an initial consultation where we discuss your relationship history, your goals for healing, and the challenges you're currently facing.

I also meet individually with each partner prior to the intensive. These preparation sessions help me understand your personal history, attachment patterns, past trauma, and individual concerns.

The preparation process ensures that when we begin your affair recovery intensive, we can move quickly into meaningful work instead of spending valuable time gathering background information. You can read more about how to choose the right therapist for your affair recovery intensive here: Affair Recovery Therapist: How to Find the Right Specialist in California.

Begin Your Affair Recovery Journey

Healing after infidelity is possible, but it rarely happens by accident. Recovery requires structure, support, and a safe place to have the conversations you've been avoiding or struggling to navigate on your own.

A 3-day affair recovery intensive provides an opportunity to step away from daily distractions and focus entirely on rebuilding trust, understanding the impact of the affair, and creating a healthier future together.

Ready to begin affair recovery?

Learn more about my Affair Recovery Intensives in California or schedule a consultation to determine whether a 3-day affair recovery intensive is the right fit for your relationship. Together, we can create a path toward healing, reconnection, and lasting change.

Alicia Taverner, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist who helps couples heal after infidelity, years of resentment, and the exhaustion of feeling stuck in the same painful patterns.

Her work helps partners begin to understand each other again, rebuild appreciation, and create lasting change with a focused, supportive approach. Alicia uses brain based techniques, including Brainspotting and ketamine assisted psychotherapy, in an intensive format that gives couples more room to heal without the start and stop of weekly sessions.

Learn more about Alicia’s work with affair recovery intensives, relationship therapy, and ketamine therapy, or visit her About page.

Navigating Anger After an Affair: Why It Matters in Affair Recovery

If you've recently discovered your partner's affair, the emotional impact can feel absolutely devastating. First and foremost, I want to say: I'm so sorry. The wave of emotions you're experiencing—sadness, fear, confusion, grief, and anger—are not only valid, they're a completely normal part of the affair recovery process.

Many couples who come to me for affair recovery intensives are surprised by the intensity of their emotional reactions after infidelity. While there are many difficult emotions to navigate during affair recovery, anger is often the one that feels the most overwhelming—and the most misunderstood.

But here's the truth: anger has an important place in healing after an affair. It's not only normal, it's often necessary.

Why Anger Is a Normal Part of Affair Recovery

When we experience betrayal, anger is often our mind and body's way of saying, "This is not okay. Something must change."

Affairs create a profound breach of trust. The person you relied on for safety and connection has hurt you, and your anger is a natural response to that injury. In many cases, anger is part of what helps people begin setting boundaries, asking difficult questions, and advocating for what they need during affair recovery.

Whether you've witnessed unhealthy expressions of anger in your family or you've been taught to suppress it altogether, many people carry negative beliefs about anger. Women, in particular, are often taught that expressing anger makes them difficult, irrational, or "too much."

But anger itself is not the problem.

The goal of affair recovery isn't to eliminate anger. The goal is to understand what your anger is communicating and learn how to express it in ways that support healing rather than creating more pain.

Understanding Healthy and Unhealthy Expressions of Anger

After an affair, it's common to feel intense anger toward your partner. You may want to yell, criticize, shut down, or revisit the betrayal repeatedly. While these reactions make sense, they don't always help you move forward.

Unhealthy expressions of anger can include:

• Yelling or screaming

• Name-calling or contempt

• Throwing objects

• Passive-aggressive behavior

• Emotional withdrawal meant to punish a partner

These reactions may provide temporary relief, but they often create additional distance and make affair recovery more difficult.

Healthy anger, on the other hand, helps you communicate what hurts, what needs to change, and what is required to rebuild trust after an affair.

In my affair recovery intensives, we create space for both partners to understand the deeper meaning beneath the anger and learn how to communicate those emotions productively.

What Your Anger May Be Trying to Tell You

One of the most important questions in affair recovery is:

"What is my anger trying to communicate?"

Often, anger is protecting something more vulnerable underneath.

Your anger may be telling you:

• I don't feel safe.

• I don't trust what I'm hearing.

• I need answers.

• I need accountability.

• I need reassurance.

• I need my pain to be acknowledged.

When couples learn to listen beneath the anger, important conversations begin to emerge. Instead of getting stuck in endless conflict, they can start addressing the underlying wounds created by the affair.

Anger Can Be a Catalyst for Healing After an Affair

Many people fear that their anger means the relationship is doomed. In reality, anger is often evidence that you still care deeply about the relationship and the pain it has caused.

In affair recovery, anger can become a catalyst for change.

It can motivate couples to establish new boundaries, improve communication, increase transparency, and begin rebuilding trust after infidelity. It can also help the partner who had the affair better understand the depth of the injury and the work required to repair it.

When anger is acknowledged and processed appropriately, it often creates movement toward healing rather than keeping couples stuck.

How an Affair Recovery Intensive Can Help

Healing after an affair is rarely a straight path. The emotions can feel overwhelming, and many couples find that weekly therapy doesn't provide enough time to fully process what they're experiencing.

An affair recovery intensive offers dedicated time and structure to address the difficult emotions that emerge after betrayal, including anger, grief, fear, and shame.

Together, we explore:

• What the anger is trying to communicate

• How to express anger without creating further damage

• The steps required to rebuild trust

• How to create emotional safety again

• What meaningful affair recovery looks like for your unique relationship

Rather than avoiding difficult emotions, we use them as valuable information that can guide the healing process.

Ready to Begin Your Affair Recovery Journey?

If anger feels overwhelming, consuming, or out of control, know that there is nothing wrong with you. Anger is often a normal and necessary part of affair recovery.

You don't have to navigate it alone.

Whether you're considering an affair recovery intensive in California or looking for support as you work through the aftermath of infidelity, help is available.

Healing after an affair is possible. With the right support, anger can become not just a reaction to betrayal, but a pathway toward deeper understanding, rebuilding trust, and lasting recovery.

Reach out today to schedule a consultation and learn how an affair recovery intensive can help you move forward with clarity, healing, and hope.

Alicia Taverner, LMFT, is a licensed marriage and family therapist who helps couples heal after infidelity, years of resentment, and the exhaustion of feeling stuck in the same painful patterns.

Her work helps partners begin to understand each other again, rebuild appreciation, and create lasting change with a focused, supportive approach. Alicia uses brain based techniques, including Brainspotting and ketamine assisted psychotherapy, in an intensive format that gives couples more room to heal without the start and stop of weekly sessions.

Learn more about Alicia’s work with affair recovery intensives, relationship therapy, and ketamine therapy, or visit her About page.